金色筆記29 :

我相信，大部分的人，都活在謊言裡。。。
活在自己為自己編造的謊言，活在別人的謊言裡；
也許，你說，這些不真實的東西，叫做夢想，希望，理想。
在凡人的世界哩，謊言，卻是讓人們生存下去的動力。

"Eat, Pray, Love" 2 : What is your word for a life time?

Discussion Questions:

1. Gilbert writes that "the appreciation of pleasure can be the anchor of humanity," making the argument that America is "an entertainment-seeking nation, not necessarily a pleasure-seeking one." Is this a fair assessment?

2. After imagining a petition to God for divorce, an exhausted Gilbert answers her phone to news that her husband has finally signed. During a moment of quietude before a Roman fountain, she opens her Louise Glück collection to a verse about a fountain, one reminiscent of the Balinese medicine man's drawing. After struggling to master a 182-verse daily prayer, she succeeds by focusing on her nephew, who suddenly is free from nightmares. Do these incidents of fortuitous timing signal fate? Cosmic unity? Coincidence?

3. Gilbert hashes out internal debates in a notebook, a place where she can argue with her inner demons and remind herself about the constancy of self-love. When an inner monologue becomes a literal conversation between a divided self, is this a sign of last resort or of self-reliance?

4. When Gilbert finally returns to Bali and seeks out the medicine man who foretold her return to study with him, he doesn't recognize her. Despite her despair, she persists in her attempts to spark his memory, eventually succeeding. How much of the success of Gilbert's journey do you attribute to persistence?

5. Prayer and meditation are both things that can be learned and, importantly, improved. In India, Gilbert learns a stoic, ascetic meditation technique. In Bali, she learns an approach based on smiling. Do you think the two can be synergistic? Or is Ketut Liyer right when he describes them as "same-same"?

6. Gender roles come up repeatedly in Eat, Pray, Love, be it macho Italian men eating cream puffs after a home team's soccer loss, or a young Indian's disdain for the marriage she will be expected to embark upon at age eighteen, or the Balinese healer's sly approach to male impotence in a society where women are assumed responsible for their childlessness. How relevant is Gilbert's gender?

7. In what ways is spiritual success similar to other forms of success? How is it different? Can they be so fundamentally different that they're not comparable?

8. Do you think people are more open to new experiences when they travel? And why?

9. Abstinence in Italy seems extreme, but necessary, for a woman who has repeatedly moved from one man's arms to another's. After all, it's only after Gilbert has found herself that she can share herself fully in love. What does this say about her earlier relationships?

10. Gilbert mentions her ease at making friends, regardless of where she is. At one point at the ashram, she realizes that she is too sociable and decides to embark on a period of silence, to become the Quiet Girl in the Back of the Temple. It is just after making this decision that she is assigned the role of ashram key hostess. What does this say about honing one's nature rather than trying to escape it? Do you think perceived faults can be transformed into strengths rather than merely repressed?

11. Sitting in an outdoor café in Rome, Gilbert's friend declares that every city-and every person-has a word. Rome's is "sex," the Vatican's "power"; Gilbert declares New York's to be "achieve," but only later stumbles upon her own word, antevasin, Sanskrit for "one who lives at the border." What is your word? Is it possible to choose a word that retains its truth for a lifetime?

(Questions issued by publisher.)

Lady in Pink with LaChapelle ...

"Candy Mosaic" by LaChapelle : We all live in a fatasy that we created within furnished with candies and jewery....!!

Photo location: MOCA 台北當代藝術館

Lady in Red 1 : Tagore's Playground

Dark clouds become heaven's flowers when kissed by light...
烏雲被光明親吻時，就成了天上的花朵...

God waits for man to regain his childhood in wisdom!

上帝等候著人類在智慧中重獲童年!

"享受吧，一個人的旅行 Eat, Pray, Love" 1 : Introduction

Ｅａｔ，　Ｐｒａｙ，　Ｌｏｖｅ　：　by  Elizabeth Gilbert

她在小時候有個夢想：以為自己長大後會是兒女成群的媽媽。但在30歲以後，她才發現自己既不想要小孩，也不想要丈夫。


這是女性對自己的覺醒，當然也是對自己困惑的開始。為什麼我想要的，和原來的世俗標準都不一樣？既然如此，不如享受自己的最佳身心暢快計畫！

在義大利極盡吃喝的享受後，作者忽然有了罪惡的感覺，這個感覺的出現，讓她害怕：既然我擔心罪惡，為何我還要放假？原來，以往我們是在耗費心神後，才去尋找「休閒娛樂」，然而，有人正是以「無所事事的生活」為最高目標！

這是個漂亮的措辭。Bel far niente是「無所事事之美」的意思。聽我道來──傳統來說，義大利人自古以來一直存在著勤奮工作的人，尤其是那些長期受苦的勞動者，即所謂braccianti。但即使在艱苦勞動的背景下，「無所事事」始終是大家抱持的一個義大利夢想。無所事事的美好是你全部工作的目標，使你倍受祝賀的最後成果。你越是閒暇舒適地無所事事，你的生活成就越高。你也不見得要有錢才能體驗。

體驗！印度　以前是「觀光」－＞現在要懂得「體驗」

作者到了印度，學習瑜珈與禪坐，這是人人對於印度習以為常的印象，也似乎是到了印度該去學習的事，但是她其實不喜歡每日早晨之後古魯梵歌的詠唱。外在的標準是教導我們必須忍受，或努力學習外界「認為對的事」，但是只有「勉強忍耐」一個方法嗎？既然得面對「不愉快」，不如學習體驗人生吧！
「這東西或許不好受，卻很有益。」
「該如何保持堅持下去的動機？」
「有別種選擇嗎？每回遇上挑戰就放棄？瞎混一生，過著悲慘、不完整的生活？」
「你剛說『瞎混』？」
「沒錯，我是這麼說。
「我該怎麼做？」

「你得自己決定。但是我勸你－既然你問我－趁待在這裡的時候繼續吟唱古魯梵歌，特別是因為你對它有如此極端的反映。假如哪個東西這麼用力摩擦你，八成對你奏效。古魯梵歌正是如此。它燒燬你的自我，把你變成純粹的灰燼。小莉，它是一條艱苦的道路，其動力超越理性所能理解。你待在道場的時間不是只剩下一個星期？之後你可以隨意去旅行，找樂子。所以，就請你再吟唱七天吧，之後永遠不用再去碰它。記得你的導師說過──研究你自己的心靈經驗。你不是來這裡觀光或報導，你是來這裡追尋。所以就去體驗吧。」

去愛！峇里島　自以為是的「自由」，其實是混亂－＞尋求定位自己，才能身心平衡!
--from Introduction ---

Forchetta in Taipei : Happy Mother's Day

有一面很大的落地窗，窗外綠意盎然，各種顏色的樹木垂吊著枝幹，好像Avatar 裡夜裡的神木，令人屏息似的。白天哩，陽光灑入，室內的文馨蘭，把蘋果綠桌巾與白色的椅套渲染了一幅畫中的光影。檜木色的地板，很古典；在安和路的小巷內避開都市的氛圍，有八十分。

夜哩，桌上點著油燈，恣意的不擁擠的浪漫。服務生對酒類的專業很令人開心，尤其在母親節的日子哩，Opus One 幫我們保持18度C。。。

喜歡精緻的泡沫調味，喜歡細細品嚐的小巧，喜歡醺醺的朦朦朧朧....
前菜點了Cloudy Bay 2006 ，想的是Opus One 2006...
只可惜，我只喝了半杯不到....便覺得下樓梯時，永遠走不完...
只記得，有白合花香，濃郁撲鼻的黑巧克力，些些年輕，但聞了就醉...

金色筆記 28

只不過不再談論個人的情緒，不再發表太多個人的看法。
不再狂哭，不再暴怒，不再三更半夜吵醒朋友，不再半夜大叫驚醒，
不再很開心的笑，不再半夜掛急診。。。。

書上說這叫做鎮靜，叫做不緊張，叫做肌肉放鬆。。。

下午和朋友在 Cafe 喝Latte,
今天很開心了。
開車順道上陽明山頂看黃昏，朦朦朧朧的，不冷有點風....

今晚作畫，花了三分之二的時間，看著沒人看的懂的抽象畫作，
凝思....
紅與黑的凝思.

怎麼，母親節，傷傷感感的...

從小，自己要的東西不多，好像很開心；是媽咪不開心。
後來，自己學會了想要擁有，想要的卻都很難要的到..自己就變的不開心。
媽咪一直都不開心....；我知道，她不說也不承認，我們都沒達到她的期望。
心理上，大家一直都有很遠很遠的距離....
媽咪從小說，要記帳喔要有理財觀念喔，要得第一喔，要打扮漂漂亮亮的喔，要女性獨立自主喔，但要聽媽媽的話喔，小時候說少吃點，現在說要多吃點.....


結果神經大條的行。。。都沒做到媽咪的標準...
還不是在她眼裡愛鬥嘴，不撒嬌又不甜的孩子...
嗚嗚.
我也想...要給她一個很大的擁抱，親伊下說，我愛妳；真的很難...

我想，佛說，別有太多妄念，慾求，期望。
便會在當下快快樂樂的存在....

"N 168 Steakhouse"

If you love Ambassador's "A Cut", you will find the exact same menu but lower price here, in "N 168 Steakhouse" at the "Victoria Hotel". I gave A Cut score 98 for the steak, 89 for 168 Steakhouse, which owns a totally advanced set of furnace and wood stone oven, proviede that the chefs learned from Mr. Deng well, a former chief chef in "A Cut". 

  This is a good alternate choice for American Steak lovers.

上海世博1 : "台灣的心跳聲"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vK9R0v415BE

許個願吧!

點一炷香，讓希望冉冉上升....
少一點傷痕，多一點的掌聲；少一點戰爭，多一點單純。
一路蜿蜒的是淡水河，是陡峭的太魯閣。
這是我們的故事，我們的故鄉!

台灣是個美麗的島嶼，擁有中國文化的傳承，擁有溫暖的人情，擁有創新適應的應變能力，
是個可以包容多元文化之處。希望與溫情的核心價值是我們台灣與眾不同的地方，如何在不斷的科技藝術文化上創新的同時，我們走出自己的風格，走向世界的劇場；不再拘泥於侷限的小框框內自憐自艾，自我狂妄。

What every BODY is Saying? 1: FBI 教你讀心術 ，Introduction

作者：喬．納瓦羅、馬文．卡林斯


原文作者：Joe Navarro、Marvin Karlins,

譯者：林奕伶

出版社：大是文化

出版日期：2009年03月31日
 
He says that’s his best offer. Is it?

She says she agrees. Does she?
The interview went great—or did it?
He said he’d never do it again. But he did.

Read this book and send your nonverbal intelligence soaring. Joe Navarro, a former FBI counterintelligence officer and a recognized expert on nonverbal behavior, explains how to ”speed-read” people: decode sentiments and behaviors, avoid hidden pitfalls, and look for deceptive behaviors. You’ll also learn how your body language can influence what your boss, family, friends, and strangers think of you. You will discover:

     The ancient survival instincts that drive body language

　　Why the face is the least likely place to gauge a person’s true feelings

　　What thumbs, feet, and eyelids reveal about moods and motives

　　The most powerful behaviors that reveal our confidence and true sentiments

　　Simple nonverbals that instantly establish trust

　　Simple nonverbals that instantly communicate authority

Filled with examples from Navarro’s professional experience, this definitive book offers a powerful new way to navigate your world.

淡水夕陽 2

金色筆記28 : 女人須要甜言...諾言。

喜歡美麗的Versage餐具茶具，
還有水晶吊燈。。。
宮廷式的迴旋梯...

然後順著回旋梯轉啊轉...
當頭暈時，就叫做戀愛...

怎像十七歲女孩ㄦ說話?!

Reflection of Hope ...

合掌溪 by Claymens

金色筆記 27 ：當今教育的缺失。。。

君子有三戒，
少之時，血氣未定，戒之在色；
及其壯也，血氣方剛，戒之在鬥；
及其老也，血氣既衰，戒之在得。

當有人對我們不友善時，我們別跟他們鬥。
但是也別當隻小白鼠任人宰割，毫無尊嚴可言!
我們必須釋出善意，表達關愛!
但是也必須讓對方知道他的行徑，傷害到我，我受了侵犯，適度表達我極度的不悅。

倘若，這些人傷害人的意圖是刻意的，是有心的，
在法律上即是蓄意傷害，或蓄意殺人。即是殺人未遂。皆視為極嚴重的罪行。絕不可為之!

現代知識份子，尤其是所謂高知識份子，在情緒控制上如同小孩搬恣意放縱無受教養，與孔夫子的教導，完全背道而馳。即是當今教育最需要注意的事務！　不然，社會上，子弒父母，殺情人，殺夫殺妻，甚至弒子事件層出。當今教育，只注重如何運用手段利用人，賺取金錢財富，疏不知，情感，修身，修性情的重要性，遠遠大於前者。

之前，我會因為自己的親人或愛人傷害我的行為，而對人性大大的失望，每天以淚洗面，暗自哭泣。曾經賦予寄託，賦予信心的人性的美好善良的一面，都再一次又一次的被最信賴的人摧毀。甚至曾想要自殺，離開這個可怕的世界，離開這個沒有真愛的世界。


大部分時候，他們還是很愛護我的。。。但是。。。。
可悲的是，人性可否信任? 當我們必須握有保護令，才能保護自身的安全時，我們如同生活在地獄當中。佛家說: 我們不要把自己的痛苦加諸在別人身上，我們也不必要背負別人的痛苦，把自己陷在地獄當中。所以，保護自己更是重要。

如今，我了解，我何必因為別人對我的不友善，因為別人的自身問題，刻意在我身上發洩，刻意傷害我，而我反而不好好的愛護自己，而反來傷害我自己？讓別人傷害我更得逞了?  或是讓他們後悔來折磨大家的心?  這世界上，只要是凡人，任何的父母，愛人，朋友或是子女，都不會是真正的愛我們的。 相信吧!  這世界上，無私的愛，是找不到的。只有靈魂心靈高級進化的人，才有可能。。。。。! !

有靈性的人? 靈魂高度進化的人? 我們需要與這樣的人在一起，才會感覺平和，才會感到快樂! 我們自己，更要成為這樣的人!!

君子有三戒，

少之時，血氣未定，戒之在色；
及其壯也，血氣方剛，戒之在鬥；
及其老也，血氣既衰，戒之在得。
共勉之。

Nurture Shock 1 : "教養大震撼"

"當今教育的缺失" 一文討論:
讀者:
現在的教育我也感到好無力,目前接觸的國中生是如此的難敎,家長甚至要我們配合小孩的個性,老天!我真的不敢想像未來的台灣會是如何?

菩提樹之舞: Mind Dancer said...

有本書挺好的，"教養大震撼" 可給那些家長看看! 只重視知識教育，是當今最大的問題，放縱溺愛或錯誤教育，也會讓這些學生長大後，毫無抗壓能力，自傲自以為是，無法面對困境挑戰。
若這些世代的人都是如此，也許大家在社會上競爭起來，就如同娃娃兵打娃娃兵...ha。
我認為，到時就只有特別優秀天才型的，及有毅力心智健康堅強的人物，才會出頭才能生存。

真正的M 型理論實現。

這些不是身在雲端的人，就只好成天埋首自戀，自憐!
當個所謂的"鬼娃";
也就是外表討人喜愛，諂媚媚俗，但是卻是極會欺負人的魔鬼，但是內心又是個極懦弱的娃娃。。。!!
當"鬼娃"充斥，社會事件必層出不窮。

所以，端正當今教育的風氣，是多麼的重要!

Diet for disease prevention

Some good articles about Diet !

1 Prevention of Dementia: More Omega 3 and 6, Vitamin B12, and E. More nuts and fish...and Social Connections.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/8615456.stm

2 Prevention of Heart Disease: More Pasta, High fiber cereals, wheat bread; Less white bread, brown sugar, rice, watermelon.

http://health.usnews.com/health-news/diet-fitness/diabetes/articles/2010/04/12/eating-the-wrong-kind-of-carbohydrates-increases-heart-disease-risk.html

Pink Lady...

Stay Together Forever and Ever....

Antique 6: Sothebys Auction 4/8/2010, Hong Kong

A VERY IMPORTANT AND MAGNIFICENT IMPERIAL PEARL COURT NECKLACE (CHAO ZHU, 朝珠)


QING DYNASTY, 18TH CENTURY
8,000,000—12,000,000 HKD
Lot Sold. Hammer Price with Buyer's Premium: 67,860,000 HKD

The Most Beautiful Lake 5: Lake Atitilan

Lake Atitilan, Guatemala

The Most Beautiful Lake 4: The West Lake, 西湖

The Most Beautiful Lake 3: Moraine Lake

Moraine Lake, Banff national park , Canada

near Lake Louis

The Most Beautiful Lake 2 : Lake of Heaven, 西藏天湖

Vedio: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p9ou6ARmrEY&feature=player_embedded#

西藏天湖，滕格漓海（Namtuo Lake）
中國第二大鹹水湖，也是世界上最高的鹹水湖。在北緯 30 ° 30'至30 ° 35'，東經 90 ° 16'至91 ° 03'之間。海拔四千七百十八米。超過 70公里，從東到西，北至南30多公里。一個面積超過一千九百二十○平方公里。最深深度33米。

納木錯位於西藏自治區當雄縣和班戈，拉薩以北100公里。納木錯湖融水從念青唐古拉山。納木錯，三聖湖，在西藏，在藏語的意思是天湖。羊年的Sagedawa每逢佳節，很多人來此朝聖。

The Most Beautiful Lake 1: Plitvice Lake

Plitvice Lake in Croatia

The Halo Effect 3: Summary and Review

The term "Halo effect", refers to the phenomenon that  people have tendencies to favor the existing performances of a certain feature, either an item, a company or a person, solely based on the previous high rating of a group or a general impression, rather than individual analysis and personal selection.
Dr. Phil Rosenzweig tried to destroy our usual myth that we usually believe in, such as following golden theories, applying business models and using formula strategies drawn by those once successful companies as our perfect paragons.  He demonstrated the myth on the top 19 companies, including Cisco, ABB, IBM, and Lego with excellent growth and profitability in the 90'. These companies had certain vibrant culture, competitive and acquisition strategies; however, they did not sustain high performances in the next 15 years.

If you wish to follow any successful model from any successful cases or textbook models, Dr. Rosenzweig shattered your dream by collecting many failure data  in history and quoting  Michael Porter's  research on "Segments Specific Effects". Porter states that the Specific Segments, including human resource management, customer and supplier bargaining power, corporate culture, and social responsibilities, only contribute 32% of the performance of a company.  Nearly 70% of the performance effectiveness depends on other factors.

There is no perfect formula for a strategic leadership, which encounters risks and uncertainties in making various decisions. In the year of 2010, while change is the constant, innovation becomes the most essential element in a corporation.

This is an unusual business book on management which evokes reader's critical thinking as we incline to grasp for formulas in the past trying to escape chronicle mistakes, but resulting in fiasco. -----By Mindancer----


Author's Guide for Managers:
http://www.the-halo-effect.com/book/documents/StudyGuideManagers.pdf

金色筆記 26: 淡水夕陽

愛上夕陽落入水裡的聲音，

輕巧巧的，像是落幕的華爾滋；

只愛淡水的夕陽。

他跟我說，有個不老的傳說；

沿著這一道光，

靜靜的，

與心愛的人手牽著手，

慢慢的走...

走在波光粼粼的水上，

我們，

將會走到美麗的

彼岸。

在那兒，

永生永世的相愛。

于"淡水河邊"