We are parent's Net Loss !

A friend of mine raised the following discussion:

Raising children is a "net loss" because you don't get anything in the end other than that fuzzy warm feeling in your heart. And that's if you are lucky, if your children grew up to become someone useful who can survive on their own without coming back to bother you or asking money from you.

For this particular concern, I think I am doing some self-reflection.

I came from a well-off family, since my ancestors and my parents did work very hard to build up the family wealth. I ask my self: Am I asking money from my parents by not even compensating their raising effort? Am I not mature enough by inherit much from them but not showing much appreciation? Am I complaining much about not receiving enough ? Although the answer is not positive or extreme, I feel their generosity and love already ; nonetheless, they do ask for much care and time sometimes in return.

I think, to be a parent, you need to educate them to be independent and be appreciative when they are still very young. They need to learn to make an effort to gain whatever they would like to earn. Nothing should be given to them as a gift that they DESERVED to have. Nothing. Parents only have the responsibilities to raise them still 18, to educate them to be a capable and wise person, to teach them be able to combat in the society successfully when needed. Like any animals, children have to leave their parents to survive in the cruel world !!

I think if parents really indulge their children to be a total useless person, they are really bad and harmful parents in a sense. I, myself, do not think I possesse this kind of abilities, so as a woman, I should let others bear this profound responsibilities.